Our Parenting Journey
In 2014, we fulfilled a long-time dream. We turned our nice, suburban house into a rental, moved out, sold our stuff, packed our family into our minivan, and drove to Mexico. There, we were on-site volunteers at an orphanage. Our whole family loved it. Our life was simple, and not always fun or happy, but serving others together was amazing.
You might say, "That’s great, but I don’t want to pack up and move across the world. I just want my kids to pick up their dirty clothes without me yelling at them!"
Trust us, we understand. Not so many years ago, we were tired and frustrated parents. We bought into the lie that in order to be good parents, we needed to constantly serve our children, and that the more we could give to them and do for them, the better off they would be. So like all good parents, we served our kids constantly and showered them with attention.
In return, our kids argued, didn’t listen, didn't obey, didn't complete homework, didn't pick up their room nor help with dishes, or even put their shoes on without a good bit of nagging from us.
Then, a friend invited us to a weekend parenting retreat with John Rosemond. And we went. And our life was turned upside down. We were introduced to the "Seasons of Parenting" and realized we were stuck in Season One, revolving around our kids (no wonder they constantly argued and didn't obey us -- they thought they were the center of the universe!). We learned how to move into Season Two and put our marriage back in the center of our home.
We went home, implemented what we learned, and within six weeks our house was completely different. We had the same kids, but we approached our parenting differently. We now had a new mindset, and with that, tools and strategies to implement that mindset. Our kids still misbehave, but now, instead of stressing, yelling or ignoring it, we are usually able to calmly deal with it. And we get different results! Today, our kids are cheerful, happy, obedient, motivated, and hard workers. Like, for real.
Family photo December 2015.
Also pictured is Yasmine from Burkina Faso, Africa.
Yasmine is a medical-mission child
who stayed with our family for a year.