Here are some of the studies we reference in our workshops. If you want to delve deeper into these studies, these two books (and even more importantly, their footnotes), will get you started.
“Roy Baumeister has spent more than a decade studying people who possess high self-esteem. He has discovered, for example, that people with high self-esteem tend to have low self-control, especially when they aren't getting their way… They tend to lash out, verbally and often physically, to the people they blame for their defeats and disappointments. Baumeister finds that wife abusers have generally high self-esteem, as do child abusers, people known for frequent episodes of road rage, and inner-city gang members. Most stupefying, Baumeister discovered that hard-core criminals- people locked up in maximum security prisons- score higher on self-esteem assessments than any other group.”
Rosemond,John. Parenting by the Book, (New York: Simon and Schuster, 2007), 54.
“These researchers concluded, ‘Childhood self-control strongly predicts adult success, in people of high or low intelligence, in rich or poor, and does so throughout the entire population, with a step change in health, wealth, and social success at every level of self-control.’”
Sax, Leonard, MD, PhD, The Collapse of Parenting,(New York:Perseus Books Group, 2016), 123.
*Footnotes in Dr. Sax’s book list numerous studies to support this conclusion.
Current Psychological Paradigm: Fragile Young Adults
“Newsweek featured an article on this new breed of overgrown teens in their twenties and even thirties who still live at home or move back after college, citing findings of an online survey that “60 percent of college students reported that they planned to live at home after graduation.”
Welch, Kristen, Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World, (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale, 2015), 126.
“Researchers who have analyzed these data have found that he children of authoritative parent do better in school, are less likely to get drunk, and are less likely to engage in unsafe sexual practices- not only in their early teenage years but also in their 20s compared to the children of parents who are less authoritative. They go on to have healthier,happier romantic relationships in your adulthood.”
Sax, Leonard, MD, PhD, The Collapse of Parenting,(New York:Perseus Books Group, 2016), 140.
*Footnotes in Dr. Sax’s book list additional studies and a definition of “authoritative”.
“A recent article in Newsweek magazine called him “modern history’s most debunked doctor.”
Newsweek, March 16, 2006
Rosemond, John. Parenting by the Book, (New York: Simon and Schuster, 2007), 33.
Mothers’ Disatisfaction with Time with Children
“Nobel- Prize winning economist Daniel Kahneman and his colleagues surveyed working women in the United States. Here is how those women rated their enjoyment of various activities in their lives… As you can see, child care was near the bottom of the list, below cooking, below housework.”
Sax, Leonard, MD, PhD, The Collapse of Parenting,(New York:Perseus Books Group, 2016), 174.